From Father Steven - July 14, 2024

Father Steven Clemence • July 11, 2024

 

 

Dear Brothers and Sisters, 

 

I came across a very interesting article about Resting on Vacations. It is often very difficult to rest properly. I hope it helps you and your family.

 

God Bless,

Fr. Steven

 

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The school holidays can often lead to conflicts within families as they struggle to balance the children's desire for fun with the parents' need for rest. This is especially true for families who cannot synchronize their vacations with those of their children. Additionally, teenagers often find their parents' plans boring and prefer to make their own arrangements. So, how can families find rest and leisure together? This article will not provide a "vacation itinerary" or suggest games or activities for children. Instead, it will draw upon the Word of God and the Magisterium of the Church to offer a teaching on rest that can provide a foundation for families to plan their own leisure time within their own realities and possibilities.

 

The need for rest is something we can all feel in our bodies and minds, but we don't always have a clear idea of what it really means to rest. Some people rest simply by sleeping, others by looking at a landscape, while others, with more active temperaments, come up with such complicated ways to rest that they end up getting more tired than before. Rest, in fact, is something that deeply touches our desire for happiness, well-being, and the restoration of the "lost paradise." In the biblical "paradise," before sin, human work meant caring for the work of creation in submission to God. We can find this call directed to us in the command: "fill the earth and subdue it" (Gn 1:28). According to the narrative of the book of Genesis, God blessed the seventh day and consecrated it, for on that day he had ceased from all the work that he had created (cf. Gn 1:3). Saint John Paul II, in the Letter "Dies Domini" (Day of the Lord), teaches that here the day of rest was created, the day set apart for the praise of the Creator.

 

Sin distorted everything! Man was called to live in an orderly way: administering the earth in submission to the Lord and, on the seventh day, resting in God. And everything he would do, both in work and in rest, would always be in honor and praise of God. Still in the book of Genesis we can read that, after the sin of man, God walked in the garden of paradise in the afternoon breeze in search of the man and the woman, who hid from him! (cf. Gn 3:8-11) - It is clear that these narratives were written in a symbolic language, to refer to much deeper realities. From the moment of sin, we would eat bread with the sweat of our brow (cf. Gn 3:19) and hide from God, avoiding walking with Him in the afternoon breeze. The meaning of work and rest was lost. However, Jesus came to redeem the true meaning of these realities. The Gospels show us in Jesus - the model of man - the order restored between work and rest; how often we see him setting aside some of his time from his intense work of healing and evangelization, of spreading and establishing the Kingdom, to withdraw and rest with his friends! Rest is not an escape from work or irresponsibility, but a need that the human being has to interrupt a series of productive activities to enjoy activities in which there is no tension for results. Leisure, therefore, is not a period of simply staying inactive, but of "occupying oneself" in activities that do not generate any of the inner demands that tire the mind and body.

 

In this way, finding the dreamed-of rest becomes not a matter of choosing the most beautiful place, the most fun companions, or the favorite games. Although all of this can even be found, true rest requires much more of an inner disposition: to abandon all the activism we have been living in our daily lives, which generates so much disunity and murmuring, to find ourselves again through loving interpersonal relationships and a true spirit of charity, which is the praise that God expects of us.

 

In light of all that we have seen, it becomes clear that families need to come together to pray and listen to what God wants to provide for them on that Sunday, on that vacation, on that holiday. This will involve giving up on each of us pulling in the direction we believe is the best leisure option. Again, in the Letter "Dies Domini," the Holy Father says that Jesus came to redeem Sunday, through our recreation as new men and women who submit their whole lives to Him and find in Him true joy and authentic rest. Here are our prayers that together, as a family, we may truly live the rest that the Lord has won for us. Let us, as families, seek to find true rest together. 

 

From Father Steven - November 16, 2025

By Father Steven Clemence • November 14, 2025
Dear Brothers & Sisters, As we continue honoring the faithful departed during the month of November, I would like to speak about something that can sometimes feel uncomfortable or awkward—but is also very necessary: funerals. This week, I read an article in the National Catholic Register titled “Why Are Fewer Catholics Having Church Funerals?” It noted that over the past 20 years, the number of Catholic funerals in the United States has dropped by about 30%. The article went on to explain that many families now prefer holding funeral services at funeral homes rather than having a funeral Mass in church. One of the main reasons for this shift, according to the study cited, is that families of the deceased are often no longer religious. They may feel uncomfortable going to church, or they may not see the need for it. At times, the person who passed away was a faithful parishioner who attended Mass regularly. Yet when the moment of loss comes—with the grief, family tensions, and emotional exhaustion that follow—families often choose a simpler service rather than a funeral Mass. It is important, however, to understand the deep value of offering a Mass for someone who has died. From a psychological standpoint, it provides closure as we entrust the soul of our loved one to God. There is a beautiful prayer of commendation at the end of the funeral Mass, in which the priest commends the soul of the deceased into the hands of the Father. On a spiritual level, the value is even greater. The sacrifice of Christ made present on the altar has immeasurable power. To offer a Mass for the soul of a loved one has a profound effect—especially after death. In every Mass, Christ offers Himself for the salvation of souls. While a Mass cannot change the free choice of someone who rejected God, it can assist souls in purgatory on their journey to heaven. For that reason, it is vital that we not only pray for our departed loved ones but also have a Mass offered for them. Additionally, the graces of a funeral Mass extend to all who attend—especially to the family and friends who gather in faith and hope. A funeral Mass does not need to be complicated. In fact, simplicity often brings greater peace and focus. It is even recommended that each person plan his or her own funeral Mass in advance—choosing the readings and hymns, and letting loved ones know their wishes. This both expresses the person’s faith and eases the burden on the family, especially if they are no longer active in the Church. Our parish office can help you choose readings and music and answer any questions you may have. I would also like to mention that, technically, the words of remembrance is not part of the funeral liturgy. While the Archdiocese allows something brief at Mass, it is not preferable. The Mass is primarily an act of prayer and intercession for the soul of the deceased, rather than a time for praise or personal remembrance. Lastly, a quick word about cremation. Until relatively recently, the Church discouraged cremation because it could obscure the sign of our belief in the resurrection of the body. Although cremation is now permitted, the Church still requires that the cremated remains be properly buried. The same article I mentioned earlier noted the growing practice of scattering ashes or keeping them at home. While these gestures may come from love or sentiment, our faith teaches that the remains of the deceased should rest in consecrated ground—together with others who “sleep in Christ,” awaiting the resurrection. The word cemetery itself comes from the Greek koimeterion , meaning “dormitory”—a place of sleep, not of death. If you have the ashes of a loved one at home, please contact us; we will gladly assist you in arranging a proper burial. Here in our town, we are blessed to have three excellent funeral homes with compassionate and capable staff who can help you with any questions and guide you through the process. I hope this reflection helps you better understand the beauty and meaning of the funeral Mass—a sacred act of love, faith, and hope in the resurrection. God Bless, Fr. Steven

From Father Steven - November 9, 2025

By Father Steven Clemence • November 7, 2025
Dear Brothers & Sisters, This week, I would like to talk about a sensitive topic: food insecurity and the stigma that comes along with it. We were raised saying that we should be self-sufficient and independent, but at times God has other plans. Most parents wish that their children may have a good education, health, and a successful life. However, how do we measure success? Is it by the size of the house, the bank account or the 401K, or other accomplishments in life? None of the above! God measures us by humility, faithfulness to the sacrament, love! God’s only desire for us is salvation of our souls, that is, our holiness. It is important to set the parameters before we continue. It is not the first time that our country faces a difficult economic situation. I still remember the crisis of 2008. So many people were unemployed. Many families were unable to pay rent or mortgage, losing their houses. Many also did not have enough money to buy food. However, this reality is not part of a crisis, this is an ongoing issue that affects many families here and around the globe. Regardless of the reason for the financial instability, the point is that we always have had families that struggle to get to the end of the month. These families are not just those from Boston, downtown Worcester, or from another unprivileged condition. At times, they are people sitting next to us at mass, the parents of our children’s friends, or even someone who works, but does not get enough to sustain their families. It does not matter the reason for their struggle, what matters is that, this gives us an opportunity to help Jesus. You may remember the passage in which Jesus says that every time we clothe the naked we clothe him, and every time we feed a hungry person, we feed him. We do not know how much longer the government shut down will continue. We know that currently it is affecting families who are enrolled in food assistance programs. However, even if this gets resolved, we know that the struggle will continue. Therefore, what can we do? I will list a few ways in which we have to support one another. St. Vincent De Paul is a group from the Parish that assists people in various needs. They have boxes located in the exits of the church. By placing money in the poor boxes, we assist them in helping those in need. Here in town, we have the food pantry that also feeds many families. Although we can donate food to them, I was told that, if we were to donate money, they will be able to get even more food. I was told that the city, through the Mayor’s office, he is also able to provide some support. Here at the Parish we also have the community fridge located on the main street side of the church. There we can donate food. I’ve seen people who have cooked a meal and put it in several containers so that it’s easier for more people to have access to it. These are just a few ways to help those in need. You also can put money in an envelope and give it to the Parish office. We in turn will see who would be in the greatest need and give it to them. Jesus in the gospel teaches that when we give, we do not blow the trumpet. Instead, when we give we do it in secret, without letting the left hand know what the right hand is doing. God, who sees what we do in secret will reward us. Furthermore, we always give without counting the cost. Hasn’t God being generous to us? Let us then imitate our heavenly father. “Love one another as I have loved you.” This weekend we would like to thank all the men and women who serve our country: those who are serving and those who have served. Please keep them and their loved ones in your prayers as we commemorate Veteran’s Day. God Bless, Fr. Steven